BY MASTERPIECE DAVID OLAWADE
I had some experiences recently, some folks called out my name in their social media posts and making comments on my social media posts that they sent me a message on Facebook or WhatsApp and I intentionally snubbed them. They added that since then, they feel there is no need for us to be relating again.
As much as I value them and my quick response was apologizing to them, I also have my reservations for such act. I felt if a man can indeed remember after weeks, months and years that I didn't respond to his or her message, why can't such man remember to resend the message if truly my response is desired?
Listen folks, it is not everyone that you don't get their responses on social media that is fighting you and intentionally snubbing you. Stop initiating a fight that will only end up in you fighting alone and fighting yourself.
LESSONS
1. SOME FOLKS CAN DELAY IN THEIR RESPONSES TO YOU ON SOCIAL MEDIA BECAUSE OF THEIR PRESENT SITUATION AND UNFORESEEN CIRCUMSTANCES.
Some years ago, I reached someone on something which he was aware of how pressing I needed his response and the aftermath of the delay in his response but surprisingly, I didn't get his response for about a week.
I almost concluded that he snubbed me intentionally but I later had the perception that he might be going through something that would have warranted the delay in his response. Rather than get angry and avoid him because I later missed out of what I needed his response for, I desired to send him SMS then called afterward.
In contrast to what many would have done, I started the conversation with him by asking how he was doing as the primary reason for calling not to attack him for not responding to me.
I later discovered he had been in the hospital on admission and about to be discharged. I would have been stupid to pick an offense or publicize that he offended me when I don't know what was going on with him in such moment.
2. YOU ARE OFTEN BEING SELFISH TO DEMAND PEOPLE'S ATTENTION AND RESPONSE ON SOCIAL MEDIA WITHOUT MINDING HOW THEY ARE DOING MOMENTARILY.
Sometimes, it is your selfishness that makes you want people to always respond to you promptly when you don't care how they are doing and what they are going through at different moments.
When some folks send me a message on social media, I know they are only reaching me "selfishly" to help them out on something that is centered about benefiting them as they hardly reach me to show concern as regards how I have been doing.
Such folks don't reach me without their own benefits in view, yet they feel they deserve a prompt response always irrespective of my own schedules.
As good as I love to render a helping hand when I'm privileged to, not minding the selfishness of folks, I also in some moments have to weigh my priority to attend to some personal demands and delay in my response.
3. NO ONE IS SO PERFECT TO THE EXTENT OF NOT NEEDING A REMINDER FOR SOME THINGS.
For me personally, I get some volume of messages from my social media platforms and responding to them can be challenging. Sometimes, I forget to reply after receiving and acknowledging some messages.
I don't know if you can relate to this; in my busy moments, I respond to some people's messages in my mind thinking I have responded but later in reality, I get to realize after some days that I didn't actually respond.
Sometimes on WhatsApp, I type a response not knowing I didn't send the chat as I was carried away with another task.
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