It is a wasted effort in trying to help a person who doesn't have the desire or show no sign of trying to help themselves; it is like pouring water into an empty basket expecting that it would be filled.
People are of different nature and character; and for you to truly understand them you have to get real close so as to know the way and manner to handle/deal with them. Do not think because you are a good orator, you can walk up to somebody and start telling them about their life without first knowing them and if possibly what they have been through.
To offer a helping hand is great but giving it to someone who doesn't have the desire to help themselves is wrong because such help is wasted. Before you consider helping a person; you should see their effort in helping themselves, know that they want to get out of that situation that is troubling them, and have the desire to help themselves.
An individual who finds himself in a troubling situation needs to show efforts of trying to solve the problem before seeking help; only then can the problem be really solved. If otherwise is the case where the individual doesn't show a sign or make an effort of getting a solution to that problem; it becomes a wasted effort if any assistance is given.
You need to understand that a person should be offered assistant only when they ask for it and when you see the effort they make in solving their problem.
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